Watching someone go through a divorce can be as horrible as going through it yourself. Seeing someone close to you suffer will sometimes automatically set off your protective instinct, which is not ideal given that it’s not your fight. It will be exhausting to include yourself in the battle that your friend or sibling or child is facing. Suddenly the other party’s infidelity or discretion offends you. Suddenly the other party is your enemy. It’s normal to be angry at the offending party, but that shouldn’t necessarily be the case.