When somebody in your family or friend group announces that they’re engaged, the first thing you think of is sending a congratulatory text. And why shouldn’t you? It’s the fastest and most efficient way you can send your best wishes to the newly engaged couple.

However, if you want to be the thoughtful friend or family member who cherishes their loved ones, you would want to find a card, compose a message, and send it as your wholehearted engagement card.

Below you will find several pointers that can help you with the basics of writing an engagement card.


Deciding When to Send Your Engagement Card

Sending an engagement card to a newly engaged couple doesn’t have to be done at a set time, as long as it’s a few months before the wedding. However, it’s recommended (and polite) to send one soon after the pair announces their engagement.

However, if they’re inviting you to a party or get-together to celebrate, then this is the ideal time to give the card in person.


Sending Your Congratulations

Sending congratulations is just a simple, basic greeting, right? It can be a brief and beautiful quote wishing them all the best in their future endeavours, whether it’s wedding planning or just spending time together.

But if you want to sound sincere, it’s important to personalise your engagement message. It should be hilarious, heartfelt, or formal, depending on your relationship with the couple.


Keeping It Personal

Keep it personal by reminiscing about your time spent with the couple—from first impressions to amusing stories, depending on your relationship with them. Make sure the message’s tone is appropriate for your relationship.

For instance, if you’re sending engagement wishes for a close friend, a few hilarious or sarcastic messages won’t go wrong, especially if they can take a joke. However, if you’re composing a message to a colleague, it’s typically advisable to keep it short and sweet; simple words of congratulations and well wishes will do.


Avoiding Making Assumptions

The best engagement cards are honest but also restrained. Avoid making embarrassing assumptions about the pair, such as if they will hold an engagement party, their wedding plans, or whether they will invite you to the wedding. This may put unnecessary pressure on their relationship.


Staying in the Positive Lane

Keep your message as uplifting as possible and avoid any negative comments. It’s easy to be negative without recognising it when you’re overprotective of someone, such as your sister or brother.

For example, you could write, “I’m astonished you’re engaged” or “I didn’t think you guys would actually do it.” Instead of being snarky and humorous, you could appear insensitive and crude. This can be hurtful to the couple’s feelings, and it could even break your connection with them.


Keeping Your Message Straightforward

Try not to force the message. Write whatever comes naturally to you, whether it’s memories you have of the couple from when you first learned of their connection or how important their partnership is to you.

Don’t worry about the length—just try to be as sincere as possible. If you’re being honest with your feelings, the message’s length doesn’t really matter.



It’s crucial to commemorate your loved one’s great occasion, even if sending an engagement card isn’t required. Even years after their marriage, a card with a sincere personal message is something they’ll remember and treasure.

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